Elderly … It is just plain odd to be so deemed. I am well past 65, apparently when we begin to be considered such. I have not thought of myself as “elderly” and “vulnerable” and neither has my 80-year-old friend, Ruth. The second definition given by Merriam-Webster is “old fashioned.” This is what we object to. We are far from “old fashioned” … “over the hill.” And our much younger friends agree.
Elder … Merriam-Webster’s third definition is “one having authority by virtue of age and experience.” We are proud to be so respected! We are in a group with those much younger women. One of them, born the same year as my daughter, is in the process of finding her voice and believing in herself. Because we’ve already been down that path, we are honored to serve as supportive elders in her process of becoming.
Gratitude for Overwhelming Kindnesses
I am self-quarantining because of the lingering cough from the flu I experienced before COVID 19 mushroomed and because it would not be good for my daughter, with her respiratory issues, to get COVID 19. I’m used to being independent. It is odd to be so dependent upon “the kindness of friends.” What I’m grateful to report is … I have been graced with overwhelming kindness.
- Before quarantine while still sick with the flu: My friend, Carol, went to the store for antibacterial soap, disinfectant wipes, and hand sanitizer … before the panic set in.
- March 12: My friend, Kate, texted that she was stopping by Meijer after work and was willing to pick some things up for me. In addition to a few groceries, my daughter now has enough distilled water to last her for several weeks (she uses it for her bi-pap machine).
- March 17: My next door neighbor, Cheryl, texted to see how we are doing and offered to run errands. My friend from church, Kathy, sent me a message that she was going to Kroger’s the next day and was willing to pick up a few things for us.
- March 18: Kathy had a family emergency and wasn’t able to go. Cheryl called late afternoon to say she was going to Kroger’s later. She picked up some fresh and frozen stuff that we needed. Today (March 22), she is going to Petco to pick up an order for cat food I was able to make and pay for online.
- March 19: Kathy made it to the grocery and picked up a few items Cheryl was unable to find or that I forgot to add to the list.
- March 24: I took my first foray out to the grocery. I’m not a morning person, but arose at 6:30 to be at the store by 7. They were out of frozen broccoli. 🙁
Gratitude for Technology
- Zoom is keeping me connected to friends and the groups that enrich my life. The week of March 16, I participated in three Zoom calls. I decided one way I can contribute is to upgrade my subscription and offer this service to all the groups to which I belong. It is a gift to me as well as to them.
- Facetime: March 21, I took a walk through the charming English village my friend, Teresa, moved to recently. What a treat. I only wish I would have had the benefit of the exercise she received. 🙂
- Texting: What a great way to check in with friends to see how they are doing. The creative ways people are finding to fill their time amazes me.
- Phone/Email: These old-fashioned vehicles are good but not as beneficial as being able to see each other.
- Facebook: As FB has morphed into a platform to express political opinions, I’ve found it less and less supportive of facilitating connection. With one wonderful exception. I’ve been slow to find our church’s FB group. Just went through a week’s worth of posts and it was great to catch up with what’s going on with people. Added many names to my prayer list. I’ll be checking it daily from now on.
Joy in the Journey ~~ Simple Pleasures
My first daffodil bloom … my orchid with seven blooms this year … birds that entertain me while I eat breakfast.
Forty-five minute walks around the neighborhood the past 2 days with my friend, Marvel. We keep our social distance. The hardest part is not being able to hug. 🙁